On this particular show they were interviewing people who had committed this awful crime and I wanted to hear their solution. See there were a few who were actually trying to warn parents about what to look for and of course one of them was a idiot. I'm trying to refrain from calling these people monsters and other names just so I can get to my point in a bit. One of the men talked about all the things we parents already know, tell your kids to say no, tell someone or run away. Well I'm here to say this does not work, we need to teach them something different. For one reason, example, if the child being touched knows the parents loves and trusts this person, the child will be afraid to hurt the parent. Kids do protect their parents to. Also the child is afraid of not being believed. Tell your child, under no circumstances, Whether the person is loved or not , don't ever be afraid to tell , because the person touching you is sick and needs help, ( hung by a tree) sorry, the person that is hurting you does not deserve being around you or anyone else .
Also, another perverted man said, it's the victims fault for being a easy target. Yep, I wanted to climb in the tv. Again tell our children, to fight back, let them know their body is theirs and nobody else's . Teach them to be stronger then the predictor. Kids at times feel obligated to this sick individual, they feel threatened, but let them know, if this sick person hurts you or worse, they will also be hurt or killed. Let kids know that a threat is only a way of making them afraid. We need to really be real with our kids.
I know from experience that sometimes when this is happening to you, you want to protect people so you allow things to happen. I didn't have someone, I could to tell, to help me feel secure and safe. Especially when it's in your immediate family.
Please talk to your kids, let them know that there are sadistic,immoral,undeserving people who will take advantage if they are allowed. Your children are the most precious gift, let them know at a early age, what is allowed a safe touching area on their bodies. Pay attention to those individuals who seem to want your child in their lap , or take them to the bathroom. Your gut will tell you.
I'm not trying to say everyone is bad, but be a little scared because this happens everyday, to the happiest of kids. If your life hasn't been touched in some way by this be very thankful because it is something you never forget. These people on the show said, they did not need to be let out of jail because they knew it would happen again. I believe a molester can't change, and no second chance.
A life is changed as soon as a child is touched inappropriately, they don't understand and they feel guilty. My final advice, talk real to your child, let them know you will under no circumstances allow anyone to hurt them, but as a parent we need to know. And as a parent make sure your child feels safe and secure. Ask them what would help them feel more safe and listen.
Also watch your child. If they seem uncomfortable around someone, red flag! If they start to be withdrawn, red flag! If they don't want to go with someone or to that house, red flag! Ask your child why they feel this way. Help your child feel and know without a doubt, you are always on their side. Abuse happens and sometimes right in front of you. It makes me so angry that there are some parents that trust everyone. STOP IT NOW.
Just love your child enough to prepare them because if you don't, the wrong person will.
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